WITHOUT PREJUDICE

If she sends one more email that starts out with...
WITHOUT PREJUDICE....
I think I'll scream.......... does she thinks she's a lawyer now? She really needs to make up her mind about what she's pretending to be...... for several years she told people she was a Psychologist... then she switched it to telling people she was a Child Psychologist........now she thinks she's a friggin lawyer too? Talk about identity crisis! A new mental illness to add to the list.......oh goody.

Fraud Alert!

CB has recently sent an email in which she claims that she is no longer mentally ill! Wow! They've found a cure for Bi-Polar and Obsessive Complusion! You'd think we'd have heard on the news about this great leap in the medicinal world.

The thing I don't quite understand..... CB has been on a disability pension from her work for the last 11 years... she is bringing in some big time bucks TAX FREE each month, in fact after taxes she makes pretty much the equivilant of Jack and considering he gave her the house which was completely paid for she has no expenses. She's sitting very pretty. But in order for her to remain on this disability pension, she must constantly be supplying medical reports to them that she is still too nuts to handle the stress of a job.

So my question is this....... if CB is no longer mentally ill..... how is it she is still receiving this disability pension?? Wouldn't that be ummmm,,,,,,,,, fraud??

Oh.... I forgot to mention.... CB got herself into a bit of trouble when she was working for uh..... fraud.... seems she was billing an insurance company for hours she wasen't actually working, so I guess this is nothing new to her.

Oh....yeah.. and then there was that minor minor fender bender she got into.... which she then ran out and rented herself a neckbrace... a cane..... and yes... a wheelchair. It was quite a sight to see. Funny how quick that neck brace came off when she'd go out drinking and dancing though.

April Fool!

For the last few weeks, we have been receiving emails from CB, in which she sounds EXTREMELY amicable. They are lovely letters, all about wanting to do better co-parenting, willing to be listen to our input on items,,,they are albeit peppered with some distortion of reality... they are written as if Jack as been the difficult unagreeing emotionally child abusing parent... but none the less.. they are all very SANE sounding.

You would think this would give us cause to be happy! For us to jump for joy and say....."Ahhhh...her meds have finally kicked in! This may work out!".....which we did the first time we started receiving emails like this several years ago. But unfortunately......we have since learned what these emails mean... and they are no cause for celebration.

When these emails start coming.....two-three weeks later....a letter from CB's latest lawyer (#6 I believe) arrives threatening a law suit. She sends these emails because she thinks they will show her to be a normal individual. We have been expecting this one and sure enough,,, her pattern has held out and the latest one arrived April Fools Day. Completely fitting, I thought, considering who sent it.

This time we are being threatened to be sued for the following reasons...

• Because we would like to have Kelly play on the same baseball team as her step brother (as she did last year) so that we can get them both to their games. All three of our kids are in baseball... baseball is on the same evening every night, there is only two of us.... so do the math.. we can't be in three places at once. CB only ever attented two games last year but for some reason has a huge issue with this.
• CB claims that Jack refuses to go to mediation with him, although Jack has informed CB several times that he is more than willing to go if she will pay her half.
• Vacation schedule.... now this one is funny... when settling their divorce agreement CB INSISTED that the agreement be that both parties had to submit their 3 week vacation times with Kelly by March 31 and if they don't, they do not get their vacation with Kelly. Each year we have submitted our holidays dates WELL BEFORE the due date. CB has NOT ONCE,,, NEVER! Which makes it incredibly hard for us to plan our summer excusions or to try to co-ordinate with my exhusband vacation dates with our kids. She will contact us 2 days before she would like to have Kelly and expect us to cancel all our plans. We have stupidly complide as we don't want to punish Kelly for her mothers inconsideration. This year we told CB we would not be complying, that she must get her dates in on time. That this can't continue. CB has informed us that it is UNFAIR to make her submit by the date that SHE set (although she still feels we must)... she says.. that Dave's (her commonlaw) exwife doesn't submit her holiday dates to them until later.... so they wouldn't be able to co-ordinate the childrens holidays so that they can have a holiday alone for themselves. WELL HELLO, FUCKTARD! WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU DO TO US EACH YEAR??? CRY ME A RIVER ABOUT BEING UNFAIR!! We have not been able in 4 years to co-ordinate holidays with my ex because she refuses to give us her dates..... and the only way we get to have a little holiday to ourselves without kids has been to either hire a nanny or find a relative who will watch them. GET OVER YOURSELF, LADY!
• And lastly... and this one I almost peed myself laughing about... the lawyer requests that Jack refrain from having ANY MORE verbal hostility towards CB and as well to refrain from bringing up contentious issues in front of Kelly anymore and to limit those discussions to emails. I will tell you,,, I go with Jack to pick up Kelly every time,, I sit in the car while he goes to the door to get her... its not 10 feet from the car.. I can hear every word exchanged... I have never heard Jack raise his voice to CB.... and when she has on the NUMEROUS times started BITCHING very loudly about some issue she is angry about right in front of her child... sometimes even going so far as to drag the child right into her tyrade by questioning the child about incidents.. or telling her "You tell your father this...".. that Jack has always calmly told CB that this was not the appropriate place to discuss this and has led Kelly to the car. In fact, I cannot even think of a time when even dealing with her on the phone after Kelly has gone to bed that he has even so much as raised his voice to her... even on occasions where he probably should have. I can't even count anymore all the copies of phone messages we have saved of CB calling our home that are so foul... one would think she was a drunken sailor. LOL.. she has even gone so far in the past to leave messages for Kelly that go.. "Kelly this is your mother calling... and you tell that asshole father of yours that when you get home baby I am going to tell you all about the games he is playing"....... and then hired a lawyer because we were not playing the phone messages to Kelly!

You know... I am trying to keep my humor about all this...... but it is getting increasingly hard... it has been so many years now... and there is no sign of it ever stopping... like a woodpecker tapping at your head day in day out.....quick.....someone hand me a slingshot.

Bizarre!!!!

I got home late one evening after everyone had dinner. I had just left a meeting and had forgotten to tell a client something, so when I got in the front door.. I headed straight to our bedroom to give him a quick call. I did not realize that Kelly was on the cordless phone with CB in her bedroom.

I picked up the phone to hear Crazy Bitch CHANTING over and over "You need your mommy...You need your mommy....You need your mommy". And Kelly replying in a robotic baby voice... "Yes mommy I know,, I know"

I will tell you... it literally send a creepy chill down my spine. The visual that came to mind was one of those tape recordings you can buy to play to yourself while your sleeping if you want to brainwash yourself about something.

CB is seriously whacko,,,,,seriously seriously whacko.

I fear Kelly has no chance at being normal. Its very sad to watch.

Egged by the Easter Bunny

When CB & Jack's divorce agreement had been finalized, holidays other than Christmas had been overlooked in regards to rotation. When this was first realized, several years ago that that would mean, due to how that schedule works, that one parent would have a 4 year stretch with no easters, halloween, birthdays, etc. Jack brought it up to CB and suggested they agree to rotate the major holidays each year regardless of whos care she was in the time.

Initially CB would not agree... as she was due to have her second Halloween in a row, which of course she took. But funnily enough when it entered our cycle to have many years of Halloweens with Kelly,, CB suddenly saw the merit of this decision and agreed. And so we began exchanging holidays.

Last year CB had Kelly for Easter, so this year we were due to have ours. We were technically due to return Kelly Saturday evening, but as Easter was the next day we thought (foolishly in hindsight)that we would be keeping her for Easter as agreed upon and planned accordingly. Even Kelly was of the belief that she would be spending Easter here as she knew she had been at her mothers the year before and looked forward to the Easter Egg hunt with her stepsiblings.

I guess Kelly mentioned this to her mother, and CB quickly got on the phone and informed Jack... that NO, he would not be having Kelly for Easter and whatever gave him the idea that he was. She then denied any knowledge of any such agreement. Even when Jack forwarded her the email in which they had agreed to it,,,, she still pled ignorance and refused to allow Kelly to stay for Easter. Very disappointing for everyone involved.

Next year we will be going into our cycle of 4 years of Easters falling on our dates. I'm sure that CB will once again have a miraculous recovery of her memory and will bring up the arrangement to rotate. To insure that there is no more 'confusion' and assist CB's on again off again alzeihemers, he has written her another email outlining what she has stated presently is her understanding of holidays... and that is... THAT WE DO NOT ROTATE!

Teacher's Pet

One evening CB (Crazy Bitch) called the house to speak to Kelly. Upon getting on the phone Kelly began apologizing profusely to CB for not calling her that day. She then promised over and over and over again that she would not forget tomorrow. We found this odd considering Kelly had just arrived home from school... when was she have supposed to have called her?? We then heard Kelly ask if Pat (a teacher at Kelly's school) was going to come and remind her.

Jack asked Kelly about this when she got off the phone. Kelly told us that during the days that she is with us, that a teacher from another grade whom CB has befriended at her school has been coming down to her classroom at lunch time when all the other children are going out to play and telling Kelly that "its time to go call your mom". Kelly then spends her lunch time talking in the office on the phone to her mother. We asked Kelly how she felt about this. She said she was sad that she didn't get to play with her friends but that her mother would get very upset with her if she didn't.

Jack of course was livid. CB calls our house all the time when Kelly is here. There is no need to be interrupting her time at school. Jack was also very upset that a teacher would actually be encouraging this. Jack called and spoke to the principal, the principal did not initially believe that could be going on. That they most certainly do not encourage children to be calling home to their parents every day. That at school they try to teach children independence. The principal said she would go and speak to Kelly's teacher and to the teacher Pat to see what was really going on.

When the principal called back, she informed Jack.. that Kelly's teacher had had no idea this was happening and when she went and spoke with Pat that she admitted that she had been doing it. The prinicpal assured Jack that it would NOT be continuing.

I was initially shocked that a teacher would be play into this, but I also recognize that CB is extremely manipulative....and very convincing in her tales of woe. I have no doubt... that she painted a terrible tale to Pat... as I have heard from other people that she has told the same stories to that... ohhhhh... she's never allowed to speak to Kelly when she's at our house....ohhhh...they deny me telephone access.... poor Kelly is so traumatized by it... ohhhh poor Kelly suffers extreme seperation anxiety and needs constant contact with her mother. Oh yes........ someone does suffer seperation anxiety.. but it sure isn't the child.