Mommy Dearest Part II

Our holidays with Kelly ended and she went back to her mothers for her 4 1/2 days. When she returned home, she was very quiet. Since Kelly has been about 2-3 she has called CB's common-law Dave, 'Daddy Dave'. CB has encouraged this. My husband Jack does not have a problem with it, after all he is her stepfather. Kelly also began calling me 'Mommy Jane' at around the same time. I have never asked her to call me this nor do I insist upon it. Its just what she has always called me.

This visit,,, (coincidentaly, right after the incident on the phone with Bev where I was accidently referred to as Kelly's mother). Kelly began calling me just 'Jane'. I pretended that I did not notice and did not bring it up with her. Later that day out of habit she slipped and called me 'Mommy Jane'. She covered her mouth and began crying. I bent to give her a hug and asked her why she was upset. I asked why she had stopped calling me 'Mommy Jane'. She told me teary eyed that her Mommy had found out from 'some lady' that she called me Mommy Jane. She then stared into my eyes and told me that her Mommy had told her that if Kelly ever called me that again that she could no longer be her mother. Kelly began sobbing in my arms.

Never have I ever felt like physically harming someone, but at that moment I could have gotten in my car and drove to that crazy womans house and punched her right in the face. Instead, I held my anger in and tried to do my best to console Kelly, assuring her that it didn't matter what she called me, it didn't change what we felt for each other. I talked with her about how I'm sure her Mommy didn't mean that. That Mommy's just don't stop being mommies. That maybe her mommy was just feeling a bit threatened. She has never called me Mommy Jane again,, the odd time that she has slipped,,, she always throws her mouth up to her mouth and comes close to tears she fears it so much. The scary thing is,,,,,, I don't doubt that CB is so crazy that if she found out that she was still calling me mommy that she would withhold her love from the child.