Mayhem, Murder and Mischief

Some history.... a few tales to set the scene of where we are today in present day. Early in Jack and my relationship, I was having terrible issues with Asshole. At the time I had been awarded custody of the family home and had 5 years to live in it before it could be sold. This enraged Asshole, he wanted us out, he didn't want to be paying child support or spousal support either. Things became quite violent, he began stalking me, breaking into my home, making death threats towards myself and the children. I put the house up for sale,,, I just didn't want to have to deal with the crazyness anymore but the market was slow and it was not selling fast enough for Assholes liking. The violence continued. I received a peace bond from the police and he was ordered to stay away from me,,,, he breached it many times. Everyone I knew how violent he was becoming over the money and they and myself were fearful that he would end up trying to kill me,,,,,,, CB was aware of this too unfortunately. One evening, she decided it might be fun to contact him, she told him that she knew me and felt that it was only right that he should know that I was purposely not trying to get the house to sell,, that I was taking his child support payments and spending it on drugs and alcohol, that I ran around town laughing about what a fool he was and how funny I though it was that I was taking all his money from him. After getting him suitably enraged with her lies,, she also suggested that he go down to Jacks office and lay a complaint against him saying that he and I were having sex while he was working. All of this was absolutely ludicrious. That evening,,, he arrived at my home drunk and broke in,,, just as she had hoped he would,,,, luckily I had an alarm activated on the house and the police arrived before he could harm me.

CB then went on to do further ridiculous things, she wrote a letter to the RCMP telling them that I was a cocaine dealer,,, she contacted men whom she had heard I had dated prior to Jack and told them I had veneral diseases! lol She started calling friends of mine and telling them I was having affairs with their husbands! She contacted my clients with the same drug dealer stories. She started calling all of Jack's co-workers and inviting them over for sex. Yes... inviting them for sex! lol.. it was actually quite humorous... one of the guys brought in a voice message she had left saying how now that she was single she would like him to come over and get naked in the hot tub with her for sex........ his wife didn't really appreciate the message that much.

The time came that Jack and I decided to move in together, our children got along fabulously. He informed her of the move and the next day she took her daughter to SEVERAL different doctors in town. She told each doctor that there was an 'investigation' going on into sexual abuse by Child Services and she wanted a exam done on her child. She had this poor child endure these invase procedures in an attempt to prevent him from moving in. Of course, as their was no sexual abuse, they found nothing. She wrote to Jack and told him that if he promised to not move in with me that she would stop with contacting Social Services. Jack contacted CB's family doctor to inform her what she was doing,,, the doctor called her in and invited Jack to attend as well. The doctor told CB she had to stop using her daughter like this and upped her medication.
It worked for a few weeks,,,but then back to her crazy old self.

We would arrive to pick Kelly up for Jack's custodial visit, I would wait out in the street in the car. CB would barge out to the car start kicking it, spitting on the windows,, miming jerking off.
If Jack called to speak to Kelly at her mothers house and Kelly asked to speak to either me or my kids, CB would grab the phone out her hands and slam the phone down. She then passed a rule that Kelly was forbidden to speak to anyone in her step-family. Kelly had often called my children from our house during the times that they were away at their fathers,,, she was so afraid that her mother's rule extended to our house that she would get in severe trouble if she did. She would cry often, it was very saddening.

When we would run into them at school functions while she was in her mothers care Kelly would not speak to us at all, acted like we did not exist for fear of making her mother angry. If there were a special event in our lifes that fell on a time that CB had Kelly and we asked if we could have Kelly,, she would only agree if she could attend herself and then she would stand with her hands across her chest GLARING at myself and my kids with extreme hostility. If she got wind that we were attending an event somewhere in town and we had Kelly,, she would show up and literally chase us around.

When my kids go to their fathers,,, at the pickup/drop off,, I give a friendly greeting to Asshole. I then give the kids a kiss and with a big smile tell them to have a fabulous time! Pick ups from CB's house are never that easy,,, CB will stand at the door,,, weeping and stroking Kelly's face. She literally behaves as though Kelly is going off to war to be sent to her death. She goes on to tell her how every minute of the days she will be thinking of her,,, makes Kelly promise back that she will be thinking of her too. It goes on and on and on. Its extremely unsettling to witness this extreme obsession with the child. Kelly will spend her whole visit worrying about how sad her mother is while she is away. The guilt trip is enormous.

When Kelly was 4 she began attending daycare occasionally so that she could interact with other children and get used to being in a school like setting. CB's feeling that Kelly could not live without her started attending the daycare all the time,,,,, I'm not really sure why she even bothered sending her. When CB would leave the daycare she would go though the whole going off to war good bye routine again. Kelly would become extremely upset and when we'd pick her up she'd often be crying in the corner.