Control Freak

I am assuming because her own life is completely out of control, that CB feels the need to control those all around her. For example,,, activities... with shared custody both parents have to be on board so that child can actually attend any programs she is involved in. CB from day one, as continually enrolled Kelly in numerous activities, swimming, Sparks, etc. Although she knows we both work,, have 2 other children in our family. CB on the other hand has no job,,,unless you consider being psychotic work,,, and has a completely open schedule, she never has the courtesy to check with us what days might work better for our schedule. Never the less, we always make sure we get Kelly to every activity CB enrolls her in. One would think that when we enroll her in a program that CB would make some attempt to get her child there so that Kelly doesn't miss half...........NOT!

Swimming... CB had enrolled her 3 prior levels and mentioned that she wanted her to take a fourth. She had always put her in Tuesdays and Thursday afternoons, so assuming that those days worked for her we enrolled Kelly for the fourth. As my children had been going on Monday and Wednesdays before which meant we were at the pool 4 days a week, we placed my children in classes on Tuesday and Thursdays, as my childrens classes ended, Kelly's began. One would think this makes sense, making our schedule far less hecticl on the days we have all the children. CB initially agreed to take Kelly but upon arriving at the pool and seeing that she would be forced to see my children for a total of 20 seconds as they exited the pool,,, she pulled Kelly right out of her class and refused to ever take her again.

Karate.... CB mentioned that she would like to have Kelly enrolled, our kids also wanted to attend and the kids were excited about being able to take a class together. CB when hearing that we had put all children in the class refused once again to allow Kelly to attend during the periods she was with her. She denied that she had ever said she wanted Kelly in Karate,,, although she had clearly written it in the 'back and forth' book that is used for communication between the two homes. Even when this was pointed out to her, she still vehemently denied that she ever wrote it.

Soccer.... Jack enrolled her at Kelly's request. She was assigned by the soccer assn to a team and a field, the field was about a 4 minutes drive from CB's home and 15 minutes from ours. CB refused to take Kelly to this citing the reason that the field was too far from their home. She said she did not want Kelly playing with any children from areas other than her own neighborhood. Did I mention that CB lives in one of the nicest areas of town and feels children who are not from her upscale area are beneath her daughter. When explained to CB that segregation had been done away with some time ago and that the soccer assn allowed children from all walks of life to play on soccer teams, there was nothing we could do change this. She still stuck to her guns saying she only wanted her playing with kids from her school and CB's neighborhood. As it turned out 6 of the kids on Kelly's team were classmates of hers,,,, CB just came up with a new excuse though. Kelly missed 50% of all practises and games and fell far behind the other girls in skills,,, which made her extremely self conscious. As well.. the other girls had had more time to develop little cliches,,, leaving Kelly out in the cold.

Funnily enough we recieved an email from CB informing us that we were never again to enroll Kelly in anything that fell on her time,,,, kinda hard to do when the child moves between the two houses every 4 days. Also funnily enough.. the very next day she sent another email to us informing us that she had enrolled Kelly in an Art Program and that the very first class was on day that Kelly was with us,, my birthday to be exact,,, she gave us instructions as to what days we were to have her there,,,,, guess she musta forgotten about her new rule about not enrolling the child on the other persons time,,,,, geesh! Unfortunately, for the first time ever, we would not be able to take Kelly to the first class as we had booked a trip out of town for my birthday. We informed her that we would not be able to get her to the first one but that we would of course make sure she attended any others that fell on our days. CB went into a rage, demanded we cancel our trip, that I could celebrate my birthday another day. She then told us that she was pulling Kelly out of the Art lessons and demanded us to reimburse us for the cost of the program... a program I might add she never bothered to ask us if we could get the child to before enrolling her.

Have I told you yet that the custody agreement states that extracurricular activities for the child will be paid for jointly between the two parents. We have always paid for half of Kelly's programs that CB enrolls her in,,,, even though she never checks with us prior to enrolling her. CB on the other hand has always and continues to NOT pay for any of the activities we enroll Kelly in.

I know, I know,, perhaps you are thinking... well the poor dear she doesn't have a job, it must be hard to afford to pay. But she does have a job,,, remember... she's the Professional Patient... she receives close to 4,000 per month tax free on a 'mental disability' insurance plan. As well, when Jack left her shortly after her last suicide attempt, he let her keep the house that was completely paid for (so no mortgage) and is worth well more than 300,000, she got all the furniture and the brand new car she ran out and purchased when she realized Jack was leaving her. She as well now has her live in boyfriend who I'm sure would is paying all the household expenses in return for living their rent free. In fact the only thing that Jack did leave with was his clothes and the 30,000 debt on the line of credit he incurred when in one of her manic states she purchased a shit load of Nortel stocks, which are absolutely worthless now. Don't worry about Crazy Bitch's financial state,,, believe me ,,, she ain't hurting.